We talk about this a lot here at Scarleteen: Maybe, but maybe not: Where Astrology and Social Justice Meet: Evidence-based journalism is the foundation of democracy. In the old days, people believed that a woman was a virgin only if she bled the first time she had vaginal intercourse with a male partner. Some women may have a few spots of blood the first time they have sex, others do not. I already had sex.
Give it weight and value, acknowledging it to be as deeply important as it is which is deeply important.
'How do I know if I'm a virgin?'
We get better at this, all of us — having kinds of sex and making sexual choices — with practice over time. And even though using a tampon can occasionally cause a girl's hymen to stretch or tear, it does not cause a girl to lose her virginity. Give it weight and value, acknowledging it to be as deeply important as it is which is deeply important. My issue is with the term itself, which has long been intensely sexist and associated with an awful lot of misogyny, sexual violence and other violence against women and other forms of oppression. I already had sex. For specific medical advice, diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.